Couples Counselling

  • The 5 most important aspects of a relationship; self-love; respect; trust; openness and passion.
  • The 10 most common relationship problems; arguments; communication; growing apart; infidelity; traumas; appreciation; sex, money; boredom and children.
  • Negative events have a greater impact on our brains than positive ones hence psychologist refers to this as the negative bias. While this bias may serve us in survival situations, but it can cause distress in everyday life and relationships.
  • According to relationship researcher John Gottman, for every 1 negative feeling or interaction between partners, there must be 5 positive feelings or interactions to outweigh the negative impact.

As a relationship therapist, I integrate the Psychoanalytic view and the Gottman Method, along with my experiences across countries and cultures, working with families and couples.

Every relationship is unique but sometimes the issues are similar… evolving from a misunderstanding and/or communication breakdown. This might make one feel that they don’t want to talk, or maybe every time you do talk, then it ends in conflict and/or feeling very negative. Or maybe a situation or event has happened, causing the breakdown… a baby or betrayal perhaps. Perhaps the love is still there but the situation is hard to love.

Coming into therapy is not about resolving all conflicts because that is impossible. It’s about creating a space to explore each-others internal thoughts. When one is talking then the other is actively listening. Conflicts are unavoidable but they can be managed, and when managed well then this creates a space for growth and understanding.

My role is to listen to your individual needs and wants, then to facilitate and integrate interventions for better communication. It’s not about blame… it’s about moving forward together, creating some boundaries and ways of being.

I attained additional training with The Gottman Institute, as their philosophy sits well with my values and experience. I am blessed with opportunities in meeting people and seeing how relationships can end or evolve. When a relationship becomes ‘stuck’, then a third person can help. There will be a change in the way you interact, which in turn will shift the dynamics, and these shifts creates new openings to progress forward together. Whether its partners or parent and child, everything is negotiable. In fact, it is only through talking that one can begin to find solutions. Coming into therapy together opens a space to find a solution together. I can help in opening that safe space and find what each really wants.

Sessions are 70 minutes and are £85.

Tailored programmes available, enquire here.